Learning to balance life is no easy task, at least not for me. Now that I have gotten kind of used to being a mom I am realizing I have no excuse for not getting the things done I want/need to do. It is hard for me to figure out what kind of schedule I should be on, and I keep reminding myself that Zoey will not be a baby forever and soon will require a more "set and balanced lifestyle". I have many ideas but rarely have very much follow thru.
I guess you could say I am a bit lost, I want to be a picture of a mom who has it all together, meals, bedtimes, baths, time with God, laundry, cleaning, work... I want my child/children to be secure and know that I am consistent. Often times when I have days off especially with my husband (sense we both work opposing schedules) I want to just enjoy being together and although there is nothing wrong with that I rarely take the time to do the much needed land field of laundry or clean the apt or even grocery shop, which just leads to wasting money and eating out.
I never pictured myself being a working mom, or really a stay at home mom either. I guess I just thought I would live on the mission field raising children and sharing the gospel in some third world country. Now that that is not the life I am living, at least not yet, I know something must be done.
I am wondering how to keep everything done with a work schedule that is rarely consistent I am always working different shifts and days each week. It is not like I can make some set schedule. I also know that my current job is not where I want to be in the next years/months, and know that I must go to school so I can pursue a better job that would work better for a family. But then, the question is, how do I work, go to school, have family time, and keep things clean and done? I know tons of moms do this and even single they manage to find ways. I guess I am just afraid that if I cannot put enough time and effort into school I will just drop out and never finish.
Thank God I have a husband who is flexible and fully supports me in everything I want to do! He helps out, cooks, cleans, babysits and still works 40-60 hrs a week! I know I can do this I just need to figure out what works best for me.
Here are just a few things I need to be more consistent and scheduled with:
Zoey's baths
Laundry
cleaning
grocery shopping
eating times
meal plans
spending time with God
applying for grants and looking into more schools and programs
family outings
work
journaling
keeping up on Zoey's baby book
Zoey's pictures
exercising
finding healthy alternatives but staying within budget
budgeting
These are just what is on my mind currently I have so many things I could be doing but often, after work especially, end up vegging on the couch watching Netflix or Facebooking.
On the bright side of things, this week I have accomplished applying for Shasta and for some grants (thanks hubby for helping) and keeping up on the dishes and laundry a little better and our apt (not great yet but better). Also we have not eaten out this week but instead actually bought groceries for the week and made meals from those. I also haven't bought anything at work in over a week (which lately, I have been awful just getting whatever because I think I need it or Zoey needs something we really don't). If anyone has any tips please I am ALL ears!!
Hi friend! You have such a busy life! The busiest time of my life was my last spring semester of college (Dec - May 2011). I wasn't a wife or mom, but had my hard classes, a job, an internship, a prayer team leader, a fiance planning a wedding in a different state, a newspaper editor, needed to find times to exercise for my class...it was rough. During that time, what really helped me stay organized was writing EVERYTHING in my planner. Man it was a life saver! I did end up procrastinating on some things, but the busier I was, I found that I was more determined to accomplish more things. Also, I watched zero TV. You could try deactivating your facebook and netflix for a while :)
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